About a week ago, I went out to Hongdae with a couple of my guy friends from my neighborhood. These particular friends of mine aren’t very interested or good at talking to women, so it was mostly a day of us hanging out as guys and having a couple of beers. By the time we got to Hongdae, it was about 11pm. Perfect, I thought. I walked into the first bar, and I couldn’t have been more turned off. Everything just seemed very banal and uninteresting. None of the girls were grabbing my attention. I tried to talk to a couple of them only to be completely blown out, and I just shrugged it off and left. My buddy was laughing at me for acting old and grumpy, and I was getting the results to show for that attitude.
A little while later, we met up with my buddy’s girlfriend and her two friends. I immediately started talking with the friends, but now instead of a busy bar or club, I was in a low-key outdoor setting. I was just meeting new people and having a basic chat, and all the sudden it was back on. From that point on, my presence, style, and game only improved until I wound up one-nighting with a flight attendant.
What was the difference between the first half of the night and the second?
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