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How to Tinder in Korea – Part 3

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This is part three of The Seoul Player’s Guide to Tindering in Korea. In case you missed them, you can read parts 1 and 2 here – About Me and Pictures.

Today Julius and I will be discussing what many people find to be the hardest part of online dating: Messaging. As always, Julius and I have completely different styles that complement our different personalities. Read the advice from each of us and apply what best fits who you are.

Messaging

JULIUS: Messaging on here is incredibly easy. After a match, you’re given the opportunity to message. I find that first sending a message about one of her pictures, usually complimenting her beauty and striking conversation on whatever they’re doing or wherever they happen to be in the picture as a fail proof way of getting her interested. If you just message “hey” or “sup”, or worse… a cheesy pickup line (unless intentionally comedic) you’re probably not going to get much notice. Especially taking Korean women into consideration that the majority do not have the fluency you possess of the English language will mean that they will either take it literally or just flat out not understand what you’re saying. A simple “Hey there ;)” is better, having gotten people myself to respond with just that. A little bit of effort goes a long way. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 3

How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

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Welcome to Part 2 of our explanation of Tindering in Korea.  Our topic today is pictures.  Just like Part 1, this will have one style from Julius and then a different style from me.  Let us know which ideas best fit your style by sending an email here!

PICTURES

JULIUS: Arguably the most arbitrary reason for which direction we swipe on a person and likely why we use tinder are because of their profile pictures. This is what will determine 99% of a woman’s interest in you. Just as how we judge them for their pictures and swipe, they do the same albeit at a much harsher rate. For my friends that complain about their lack of success on tinder is usually due to the quality and content of their pictures. Since tinder allows you to connect your Facebook profile, be sure to choose your best pictures. Ensure success by making your profile picture your best picture. Like any dating website, your profile picture is what you use to get their attention and what usually leaves a lasting impression. So make it the one that counts the most. Make it interesting. How? Being in South Korea shows that you’ve probably traveled to other places and seen some interesting things. Put a picture of you standing in front of a palace or other historical monuments. Been to another country? Show pictures of yourself visiting those places. I’ve used photos of myself visiting Japan and Thailand to garner interest and help with conversation with a match. Make yourself look interesting doing things most people have never done before, like mountain hiking or posing in one of Asia’s many skyscrapers with a sweeping view of the city behind you. Try to stand out from the usual shirtless-beer-drinking-guy-at-the-mudfest crowd. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

Can I Meet Women in My Own Country?

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Hey there players!  This post comes from J.D. over at The Social Lifestyle.  Go check out his other writings too, the guy has a lot of great stuff to say.  He’s provided a much needed native Asian view for us today, explaining the mindset needed to meet and pick up girls in your own home country.  This article should help our Korean readers become more confident with talking to and meeting women here at home.

Something that comes up time and time again from guys who first learn about cold approach pick up is that they think “it only works in the Western context.” It’s as though somehow they are a different species of humans and have totally different socio-behavioral cues.

Sure, if you’re comparing Saudi Arabia to USA, for example, there are laws or sanctions against publicly interacting with members of the opposite sex, then it may make sense to say that.

But if you’re living in a Westernized, progressive society, saying that women in your country can’t be approached is definitely ridiculous—especially if you haven’t tried it yourself. [Read more…] about Can I Meet Women in My Own Country?

Learn From Your Friends’ Mistakes

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Hey players!  Another guest post from my good friend Julius to give you a different perspective.  Follow his advice here and always learn from your friends’ mistakes! -Jack

Having been in Korea a few years, I’ve made a few mistakes of my own by also have seen others do much worse. Ironically, I learned the most through others’ mistakes.

I had a friend in Korea that lived two hours away from Seoul by train in the countryside. Mildly attractive and with a decent enough personality, I thought that he would be a hit with women, foreign and domestic. He would consistently ask our large group of friends and me for advice on meeting women and what to do. He struck out so often with women that it became an ongoing joke. How did someone like him, by no means a socially awkward weirdo, manage to find misery in a country where so many find success? Here’s what he did and what you should avoid. [Read more…] about Learn From Your Friends’ Mistakes

How to Date an Average Korean Girl as an Average Guy

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Hey players, this is a guest post from Julius out in the field.  Enjoy!  You can send any thoughts, comments or guest post ideas to [email protected].

Going to Korea for the first time can be extremely overwhelming. For many, it’s the first time away from home and a familiar environment. Not only are you experiencing culture shock with the mannerisms of the people, you also don’t know the language and how to communicate with others… especially with Korean women. You suddenly find yourself not being able to communicate effectively at all, resorting to clumsily pointing and gesturing in the hopes of getting what you want to eat. If ordering food is one of the most challenging things at first, how on earth would you ask out a Korean woman, let alone date one? Luckily, most Korean women our age are interested in meeting a foreigner, regardless of race or country of origin. So it’s not that hard. Here’s how. [Read more…] about How to Date an Average Korean Girl as an Average Guy