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What’s up players? It’s your main man Papa Jack here to drop some very important and practical wisdom on you.

When you first meet a girl or first start seeing her, of course the first thing you’re going to want to do is bang her. I know it, you know it, she knows it. The players are in it to play. Even knowing that though, a lot of guys aren’t going to push that part of their interaction too much because they’re scared of losing her.

Now, I’ve told you before that you should always go for gold every time you meet a girl. You guys probably know that mentally but you don’t really get it emotionally.

“Yeah, yeah, I get it Jack,” you’re thinking to yourself.

“She won’t punish me for trying to go for it, but maybe I just don’t really want to push it yet. Maybe I want to spend some time with her and get to know her. Don’t worry man, we’ll get there when we get there, when she’s comfortable with it. I just don’t want to push it. Maybe she’ll get scared or think I’m just in it for sex and leave me with my dick in my hand.” [Read more…] about Fuck on the First Date

I got an interesting email from a reader earlier this week. He asked about a specific situation that I’ve noticed happening recently, but at the same time, it seems to have always happened in one form or another.

The reader writes:

“I just broke up with my ex last week and this was the first time that I approached women in Seoul. I was at an outdoor concert with some coworkers and saw a cute girl sitting not far from us. There were 3 girls and one guy (coworker with one and not dating any of them) in the group. I ended up chatting with them for about 10-15 minutes. Everything seemed to be going well, and as I was finishing the conversation, I mentioned that I didn’t know very many people in Seoul and it would be great to hang out with them. To be honest I don’t remember exactly what they said or what I said, but the girl closest to me asked me if I was on Instagram. I said that I wasn’t but that I do have Kakao and offered to exchange IDs. At that point, the guy said that I should start using Instagram so that I could “meet fancy ladies.” That created a rather awkward moment, and at that point, I asked the girl again about Kakao. There wasn’t much of a response and I didn’t want to linger, so I politely excused myself and went back to my friends empty-handed. To be honest, I thought asking for my Instagram was a bit of a polite way to say Fuck off, so I didn’t try too hard after that.

All of my friends that I was with are foreigners most of whom are either married to other foreigners or just moved here a few weeks ago as well. When I went back and told my friends, one said that asking for my Instagram was a good thing and meant she was interested. This was very confusing for me. So the question is, should her asking about Instagram be perceived as a good signal or a polite way to reject? Is not having, nor wanting to have an Instagram account, possibly going to be problematic in the future?”

Okay players, let’s unpack this! [Read more…] about Can I Have Your InstaFaceTweetPlus?