The Seoul Player

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How to Approach for Introverts

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Whenever I’m coaching a guy or giving him help in the chat group, one of the biggest issues that I hear from them is that they can’t approach girls in public. They want to, but they just… can’t.

I get it completely, approach anxiety is a real issue that I’ve addressed in many of my videos so far.

However, for a lot of guys, they have a tough time with this for more reasons than just basic anxiety.

For a good number of our community, they are just too naturally introverted to go up to a girl and start up a conversation, even if they want to.

As I’m sure you’ve noticed, I’m not an introvert myself. In fact, I’m probably the farthest thing from it. This makes it a bit difficult for me to understand where these guys are coming from and what their issues are. After all, as cool-dude gangster rapper Coolio taught us, “If they can’t understand me, how can they reach me?”

However, after thinking on this issue for a while and having some in-depth conversations with the guys who struggle with this, I’ve come up with a simple 3-step process to help anyone approach women, no matter how introverted you think you are.

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The Secret Benefit to Taking Her Number

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If you’ve been going out and approaching like I often tell you to (or coach you to) then you’re going to end up taking a LOT of numbers. You’ll start to recognize that some numbers are higher quality than others, meaning that she’s very interested or you’ve already set a date together. A lot of times though, you might take a lower quality number from a girl who you aren’t terribly interested in at the moment or who is showing some hesitation.  Other times you might be chatting with a girl and she flakes or it just fizzles out.  Don’t delete that number just yet!

If you go out number farming a lot, you’ll end up with hundreds or thousands or girls’ numbers in your phone.  This is obviously an unmanageable and unwieldy list of numbers that can’t possibly be sorted through.  On top of that there’s no way that you’ll remember who they all are or how you met or any of those details.

But when you’re on a cold streak or just don’t have any particular plans set, this can be a big benefit.

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How to End a Cold Streak in 5 Easy Steps

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An unfortunate reality of the player lifestyle is that nobody can be successful 100% of the time.  Even the best players go through cold streaks from time to time, and they can be terribly demoralizing.

Even in these down periods, which you may well be on right now if you’re seeking out this site for the first time, it’s critical that you trust the process and your training.

However, these 5 tips can help you to get through it and come out better and stronger on the other side.

1. Hit the Gym

I know that this might seem obvious to a lot of you guys out there, but going to the gym has myriad benefits for your physical and mental health.

Of course, going to the gym is critical for your physical health as well as your physique. If you feel like your looks or body have something to do with your current cold streak, especially if you’ve put on some winter skin or some quarantine pounds, shedding some of that will help with your looks and confidence a lot.

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Fuck on the First Date

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What’s up players? It’s your main man Papa Jack here to drop some very important and practical wisdom on you.

When you first meet a girl or first start seeing her, of course the first thing you’re going to want to do is bang her. I know it, you know it, she knows it. The players are in it to play. Even knowing that though, a lot of guys aren’t going to push that part of their interaction too much because they’re scared of losing her.

Now, I’ve told you before that you should always go for gold every time you meet a girl. You guys probably know that mentally but you don’t really get it emotionally.

“Yeah, yeah, I get it Jack,” you’re thinking to yourself.

“She won’t punish me for trying to go for it, but maybe I just don’t really want to push it yet. Maybe I want to spend some time with her and get to know her. Don’t worry man, we’ll get there when we get there, when she’s comfortable with it. I just don’t want to push it. Maybe she’ll get scared or think I’m just in it for sex and leave me with my dick in my hand.” [Read more…] about Fuck on the First Date

Can I Have Your InstaFaceTweetPlus?

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Instragram SucksI got an interesting email from a reader earlier this week.  He asked about a specific situation that I’ve noticed happening recently, but at the same time, it seems to have always happened in one form or another.

The reader writes:

“I just broke up with my ex last week and this was the first time that I approached women in Seoul.  I was at an outdoor concert with some coworkers and saw a cute girl sitting not far from us. There were 3 girls and one guy (coworker with one and not dating any of them) in the group. I ended up chatting with them for about 10-15 minutes. Everything seemed to be going well, and as I was finishing the conversation, I mentioned that I didn’t know very many people in Seoul and it would be great to hang out with them. To be honest I don’t remember exactly what they said or what I said, but the girl closest to me asked me if I was on Instagram. I said that I wasn’t but that I do have Kakao and offered to exchange IDs. At that point, the guy said that I should start using Instagram so that I could “meet fancy ladies.” That created a rather awkward moment, and at that point, I asked the girl again about Kakao. There wasn’t much of a response and I didn’t want to linger, so I politely excused myself and went back to my friends empty-handed. To be honest, I thought asking for my Instagram was a bit of a polite way to say Fuck off, so I didn’t try too hard after that.

All of my friends that I was with are foreigners most of whom are either married to other foreigners or just moved here a few weeks ago as well. When I went back and told my friends, one said that asking for my Instagram was a good thing and meant she was interested. This was very confusing for me.  So the question is, should her asking about Instagram be perceived as a good signal or a polite way to reject? Is not having, nor wanting to have an Instagram account, possibly going to be problematic in the future?”

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