What’s up players? It’s your main man Papa Jack here to drop some very important and practical wisdom on you.
When you first meet a girl or first start seeing her, of course the first thing you’re going to want to do is bang her. I know it, you know it, she knows it. The players are in it to play. Even knowing that though, a lot of guys aren’t going to push that part of their interaction too much because they’re scared of losing her.
Now, I’ve told you before that you should always go for gold every time you meet a girl. You guys probably know that mentally but you don’t really get it emotionally.
“Yeah, yeah, I get it Jack,” you’re thinking to yourself.
“She won’t punish me for trying to go for it, but maybe I just don’t really want to push it yet. Maybe I want to spend some time with her and get to know her. Don’t worry man, we’ll get there when we get there, when she’s comfortable with it. I just don’t want to push it. Maybe she’ll get scared or think I’m just in it for sex and leave me with my dick in my hand.”
Sure man, sure. Among all the flaws in that general line of thinking, there’s one big one that stands out. When you guys bang for the first time, you’re making her give up her power in the relationship. That’s a huge thing in the dynamic between you two, and I bet you’ve even read that somewhere before.
Men have many things to offer a girl in a relationship, but girls pretty much only have sex to offer, especially early on. If you can get her to give up the power she holds over getting you to buy her stuff, take her places, and just generally be her bitch, then it shifts the other way and now she has no pull over you and will follow your lead. It’s also a clear guarantee that you’re not stuck in the friend zone.
All of that is true… BUT!
I was thinking earlier today about this situation. If I were in some kind of negotiation, in this carnal compromise of sorts, and felt like I had lost all of my power and leverage, what would I do?
I would leave, of course. At that point, the chances of me getting what I want out of this procreative pontification would be near zero.
So why do they stay?
THE SUNK COST FALLACY
Now, a few of you nubile neophytes out there have probably heard of this concept. Any chicks reading this almost certainly have not – it’s not a story the gender studies professor would tell you. A brief summary for those who haven’t is that once you’ve put resources into something and invested in it, you don’t want to leave it because you would be guaranteed to lose your initial investment. It’s sometimes called the Gambler’s Fallacy because of a gambler’s tendency to “ride out a cold table” and the like.
Imagine a man who has taken a girl on 5 dates – fancy dinners, flowers, favors, the works – but still didn’t get laid. He’s obviously a chump. However, he’s invested time, money, and energy into making this girl like him (LOL) and thinks that he can still turn it around, so he stays. Classic gambler’s fallacy.
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Now let’s flip that around. There’s a woman who has been on 5 dates with a guy… but they’ve all been at his place for Netflix ‘n nookie. This guy won’t lift a finger for her, won’t take her out, and even makes her buy the beer to bring over for the “date”. She’s clearly the chump in this situation… but she hasn’t really invested any money or resources into this guy. (Don’t forget, time is a very plentiful resource for anyone who uses Facebook and Instagram as obsessively as most modern women)
So how does the sunk cost fallacy apply here, and how does it work in your favor?
Well, despite not having invested any physical or financial resources, we can plainly see examples of this fallacy still affecting people psychologically. In this particular case, proffering passage to the precious pink taco is her way of investing in a man. While the gambler’s fallacy doesn’t initially seem to apply, as she can’t “recover” her initial investment, that actually doubles the effects of the sunk cost.
She has invested in you completely. She’s all in and has no more chips to bet with. All she can do now is stick around and hope that you choose to reward her with attention and affection. Whether you do or not is your choice, but she’s just dying to see your answer. That puts you in a perfect place to lead the relationship to whatever you want (or don’t want) it to be.
Either that or she just wanted to bang, in which case good job not putting any resources into her.
These are your two possible scenarios, and you can clearly see that in both it is most advantageous to bang it out ASAP with a new lady.
So take that pussy off it’s pretentious pedestal and get to work, player!
Comment below or email me to tell me about a time you used the sunk cost fallacy to help you… or a time you were suckered in by it!