The Seoul Player

“You know what the happiest animal in the world is? A goldfish.

Know why? It’s got a 10 second memory.

Be a goldfish, Sam.”

Apart from being a great scene from one of the best shows ever written, this line from Ted Lasso can teach us all something very important.

It teaches us that, in order to be happy, successful, and continue to improve, we need to let go of our past mistakes and move on.

The bigger question though is exactly how one can do that.

“How can I forget about that stupid thing I said / did? She stopped talking to me after that!”

This is something I’ve heard a thousand times from different guys I’ve coached over the years, and I continue hearing it to this day. And I’ll admit to you right now, it is not an easy thing to do. It’s certainly not a natural thing to do either. It’s hardwired into us as humans.

That said, it is possible. And beyond that, it is necessary if you want to be successful with women, business, life in general… or “football.”

Let me tell you that I’ve made mistakes. A LOT  of mistakes. So many, in fact, that I don’t even know how many. The weird thing though is that unless I really think hard about a particular interaction or relationship I had, I don’t actually remember any of them. None stick in my consciousness, and they don’t hold me back from going into similar situations… Though they do help to inform me of how to act in similar situations.

How am I able to make thousands of mistakes, ranging from fumbling my words to almost getting stabbed by a girl?

Well, here are three simple strategies to getting over your past mistakes and moving on to become better.

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