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How to Tinder in Korea – Part 4

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Here we go players, it’s time for the final installment in The Seoul Player’s Guide to Tindering in Korea: The Date. We’re going to go over the details, specifics, and logistics of taking out a Tinder date in Korea for a (hopefully) successful evening.

If you missed the other parts, you can find them here – About Me, Pictures, and Messaging.  As always, Julius will give his take first, followed by my thoughts.

JULIUS: One of the best things about Tinder is that it skips the approaching and trying to get a woman interested in you and replaces it with a right swipe. In other words, you’re not there to work on that. That part has been done for you. So once you begin messaging and things are going smoothly, you’ll just have to figure out when and where to meet.

Some women might want to meet within the day of matching, while others wait about a week or so to see how you are as a person. Do not take the immediate meetup as a guarantee for hooking up; a few people just want to go on a blind date and see how it goes. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 4

How to Tinder in Korea – Part 3

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This is part three of The Seoul Player’s Guide to Tindering in Korea. In case you missed them, you can read parts 1 and 2 here – About Me and Pictures.

Today Julius and I will be discussing what many people find to be the hardest part of online dating: Messaging. As always, Julius and I have completely different styles that complement our different personalities. Read the advice from each of us and apply what best fits who you are.

Messaging

JULIUS: Messaging on here is incredibly easy. After a match, you’re given the opportunity to message. I find that first sending a message about one of her pictures, usually complimenting her beauty and striking conversation on whatever they’re doing or wherever they happen to be in the picture as a fail proof way of getting her interested. If you just message “hey” or “sup”, or worse… a cheesy pickup line (unless intentionally comedic) you’re probably not going to get much notice. Especially taking Korean women into consideration that the majority do not have the fluency you possess of the English language will mean that they will either take it literally or just flat out not understand what you’re saying. A simple “Hey there ;)” is better, having gotten people myself to respond with just that. A little bit of effort goes a long way. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 3

How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

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Welcome to Part 2 of our explanation of Tindering in Korea.  Our topic today is pictures.  Just like Part 1, this will have one style from Julius and then a different style from me.  Let us know which ideas best fit your style by sending an email here!

PICTURES

JULIUS: Arguably the most arbitrary reason for which direction we swipe on a person and likely why we use tinder are because of their profile pictures. This is what will determine 99% of a woman’s interest in you. Just as how we judge them for their pictures and swipe, they do the same albeit at a much harsher rate. For my friends that complain about their lack of success on tinder is usually due to the quality and content of their pictures. Since tinder allows you to connect your Facebook profile, be sure to choose your best pictures. Ensure success by making your profile picture your best picture. Like any dating website, your profile picture is what you use to get their attention and what usually leaves a lasting impression. So make it the one that counts the most. Make it interesting. How? Being in South Korea shows that you’ve probably traveled to other places and seen some interesting things. Put a picture of you standing in front of a palace or other historical monuments. Been to another country? Show pictures of yourself visiting those places. I’ve used photos of myself visiting Japan and Thailand to garner interest and help with conversation with a match. Make yourself look interesting doing things most people have never done before, like mountain hiking or posing in one of Asia’s many skyscrapers with a sweeping view of the city behind you. Try to stand out from the usual shirtless-beer-drinking-guy-at-the-mudfest crowd. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

How to Tinder in Korea – Part 1

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seoulplayer tinder koreaHey there, players!  I’ve received a lot of interest and feedback asking for more information about Tinder in Korea.  I am personally not a big fan of it, but I recognize that there is a desire to hear more advice about it.  Fortunately for you guys, my close friend Julius likes Tinder and has a lot to say about it.

Because it’s a topic that has generated such interest, we’ve decided to write out our advice for the different aspects of Tinder as a back and forth column.  For each section, Julius will give you his advice first and then I will give a second opinion and advice.  We’ve both had success with online dating, but we have very different styles, so hopefully one of us will resonate with your personal style. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 1

The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game

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In Korea text game is absolutely essential.  More than 90% of the girls that I’ve met and dated will all but completely refuse to talk on the phone, even with their own friends and family using their native language.  Instead they prefer to always text instead, which can be either a help or a hindrance to you depending on how you use it.

I’ve written before about the importance of KakaoTalk in Korea, the go-to messaging app choice for Koreans.  Using the app is a step in the right direction, but even from that point you have to tighten up your text game.  In order to do that, it’s crucial to avoid the two biggest mistakes I’ve seen guys make when talking to Korean girls:

  1. You’re texting too much.
  2. You’re not texting enough.

I know that seems counterintuitive at first glance, but follow me as I explain these problems and how to fix them. [Read more…] about The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game