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How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

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Welcome to Part 2 of our explanation of Tindering in Korea.  Our topic today is pictures.  Just like Part 1, this will have one style from Julius and then a different style from me.  Let us know which ideas best fit your style by sending an email here!

PICTURES

JULIUS: Arguably the most arbitrary reason for which direction we swipe on a person and likely why we use tinder are because of their profile pictures. This is what will determine 99% of a woman’s interest in you. Just as how we judge them for their pictures and swipe, they do the same albeit at a much harsher rate. For my friends that complain about their lack of success on tinder is usually due to the quality and content of their pictures. Since tinder allows you to connect your Facebook profile, be sure to choose your best pictures. Ensure success by making your profile picture your best picture. Like any dating website, your profile picture is what you use to get their attention and what usually leaves a lasting impression. So make it the one that counts the most. Make it interesting. How? Being in South Korea shows that you’ve probably traveled to other places and seen some interesting things. Put a picture of you standing in front of a palace or other historical monuments. Been to another country? Show pictures of yourself visiting those places. I’ve used photos of myself visiting Japan and Thailand to garner interest and help with conversation with a match. Make yourself look interesting doing things most people have never done before, like mountain hiking or posing in one of Asia’s many skyscrapers with a sweeping view of the city behind you. Try to stand out from the usual shirtless-beer-drinking-guy-at-the-mudfest crowd. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 2

How to Tinder in Korea – Part 1

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seoulplayer tinder koreaHey there, players!  I’ve received a lot of interest and feedback asking for more information about Tinder in Korea.  I am personally not a big fan of it, but I recognize that there is a desire to hear more advice about it.  Fortunately for you guys, my close friend Julius likes Tinder and has a lot to say about it.

Because it’s a topic that has generated such interest, we’ve decided to write out our advice for the different aspects of Tinder as a back and forth column.  For each section, Julius will give you his advice first and then I will give a second opinion and advice.  We’ve both had success with online dating, but we have very different styles, so hopefully one of us will resonate with your personal style. [Read more…] about How to Tinder in Korea – Part 1

The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game

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In Korea text game is absolutely essential.  More than 90% of the girls that I’ve met and dated will all but completely refuse to talk on the phone, even with their own friends and family using their native language.  Instead they prefer to always text instead, which can be either a help or a hindrance to you depending on how you use it.

I’ve written before about the importance of KakaoTalk in Korea, the go-to messaging app choice for Koreans.  Using the app is a step in the right direction, but even from that point you have to tighten up your text game.  In order to do that, it’s crucial to avoid the two biggest mistakes I’ve seen guys make when talking to Korean girls:

  1. You’re texting too much.
  2. You’re not texting enough.

I know that seems counterintuitive at first glance, but follow me as I explain these problems and how to fix them. [Read more…] about The 2 Biggest Mistakes Guys Make in Text Game

Make The Date

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Since I’ve started writing down my thoughts about meeting Korean girls, I’ve started becoming more analytical about what exactly has helped cause my successes or failures in different situations.  I was looking back through old message records with different girls that either worked out for me or didn’t, trying to see the difference.  While most of the conversations had very similar lines and themes, one thing stood out between the girls I eventually hooked up with and those who I didn’t – I made a concerted effort to meet them again as soon as possible. [Read more…] about Make The Date

Don’t Tinder Korea

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Tinder is the biggest possible waste of your time and energy if you’re looking to meet Korean girls.

It’s a microcosm of shitty American culture coming to Korea and being made even worse.  Every interaction begins with you providing the girl with instant validation of her looks, which in and of itself is not a good beginning.  Then 99% of the time, you have to send messages first and show direct interest, further weakening your hand.  If she even bothers responding to your dancing bear intro or terrible pun, you’re in a situation where you almost have to play into her hand just to get her to meet face to face.  It’s a lazy and weak way of trying to meet girls in general, and it especially doesn’t work in Korea.
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