The Seoul Player

And the Korean Women who Love Him

Can I Have Your InstaFaceTweetPlus?

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Instragram SucksI got an interesting email from a reader earlier this week.  He asked about a specific situation that I’ve noticed happening recently, but at the same time, it seems to have always happened in one form or another.

The reader writes:

“I just broke up with my ex last week and this was the first time that I approached women in Seoul.  I was at an outdoor concert with some coworkers and saw a cute girl sitting not far from us. There were 3 girls and one guy (coworker with one and not dating any of them) in the group. I ended up chatting with them for about 10-15 minutes. Everything seemed to be going well, and as I was finishing the conversation, I mentioned that I didn’t know very many people in Seoul and it would be great to hang out with them. To be honest I don’t remember exactly what they said or what I said, but the girl closest to me asked me if I was on Instagram. I said that I wasn’t but that I do have Kakao and offered to exchange IDs. At that point, the guy said that I should start using Instagram so that I could “meet fancy ladies.” That created a rather awkward moment, and at that point, I asked the girl again about Kakao. There wasn’t much of a response and I didn’t want to linger, so I politely excused myself and went back to my friends empty-handed. To be honest, I thought asking for my Instagram was a bit of a polite way to say Fuck off, so I didn’t try too hard after that.

All of my friends that I was with are foreigners most of whom are either married to other foreigners or just moved here a few weeks ago as well. When I went back and told my friends, one said that asking for my Instagram was a good thing and meant she was interested. This was very confusing for me.  So the question is, should her asking about Instagram be perceived as a good signal or a polite way to reject? Is not having, nor wanting to have an Instagram account, possibly going to be problematic in the future?”

Okay players, let’s unpack this! [Read more…] about Can I Have Your InstaFaceTweetPlus?

How to Spot and Avoid Flakes

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How to avoid flakesSo you finally stepped up to the plate.

You stopped that beautiful girl on the train and got her number using The Seoul Player’s patented number grabbing technique.

Now you’re following the plan to text her and set up a date.

Everything is all ready, you get dressed and start heading to meet her for drinks at the local pub near your home so your logistics are tight.

All the sudden your phone buzzes.  You look down and see that it’s her.  You get a sinking feeling in your gut because you know what’s coming next.

“Hey, I’m sorry but…” [Read more…] about How to Spot and Avoid Flakes

The Player’s Experiment

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no beer for youAfter nearly a decade in Korea dealing with the women here, I like to foolishly think that I know enough about them to answer almost any question regarding game.  This illusion was quickly shattered a couple of months ago when a reader asked me a question that truly stumped me.  The embarrassing thing was that it wasn’t a question of specific techniques or venues, not even a silly NAWALT exception that would need to be explained.  It was much simpler than that, and it was a question that any reasonable person with as much experience as me should be able to answer.

It was a question that hit directly at a huge personal fault of mine and made me realize how limited my experiences have been because of it.

The Question

“I don’t drink alcohol so how can I game women and get laid without drinking?” [Read more…] about The Player’s Experiment

Never Back Down – Always Play to Win

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Don+t+back+down_9616b8_4964221Since the articles I write on here tend to generate quite a bit of hate and self-righteous indignation from the angry folks who stumble across them, I wasn’t surprised when my article about staying in Korea got some angry responses.  What really surprised me was the source of the hate – it came almost exclusively from my family.

A few hours after posting it, I got a message from my father saying that I should think about taking down the article because it might ‘hurt some feelings’ among people back home.  I laughed at him and explained that doing so would actually be antithetical to the whole premise of the article.  Going your own way and living life on your own terms was the whole point, and capitulating to such silliness would be the most hypocritical act possible. [Read more…] about Never Back Down – Always Play to Win

How to Avoid the Friend Zone

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Friend Zone MarioOne of the worst possible fates for a man is to wind up in the dreaded friend zone.  Everyone knows what that means – a girl wants to ‘hang out’ with you but doesn’t want anything more than that.  She wants you to buy her dinner and drinks while she vents about problems with her family, friends, and the guy who is actually getting to fuck her.

That guy is not you.

Essentially she is using you as an emotional tampon.  And being stuck in the friend zone really is as gross as that sounds.

This terrible tragedy befalls many would-be players every year, and unfortunately it is a reality that everybody has to deal with at one time or another.

I myself recently had a brush with The F-Zone.  It was an especially dangerous run in because in this case the girl was particularly hot.  Every man knows that the hotter a girl is, the harder it is to say no to her.

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She was dangerously high on the matrix.

Allow me to explain how I managed to avoid the friend zone with this cutie. [Read more…] about How to Avoid the Friend Zone