ONS: 25% – 50%
LTR: Low to Medium-Low desirability
Who is The Cheater?
The Cheater, as her name might suggest, is a type of girl who is very open to suggestion and willing to transgress moral and social boundaries in the pursuit of excitement and pleasure. This often, though not always, manifests itself in promiscuous sexual behavior – even if she is currently in a relationship with someone else. She is generally a very selfish type of girl who puts her own needs and desires before her partner’s, but this isn’t always a conscious decision on her part or even something of which she is aware.
Often The Cheater will get so excited or wrapped up in an experience or fleeting emotion of the moment that she simply loses herself. This is not an absolution of her behavior, but it is an explanation. Unlike men who stray behind their partner’s backs, The Cheater is usually not as calculated and intentional with her indiscretions. Instead, she is swept up in a moment of passion and intrigue with another man so much so that she simply abandons all reason and prudence.
It is worth noting that any of the types of girls can cheat on their partner. In fact, many of the types are very susceptible to infidelity, most notably The Slut and The Alcoholic because of their natures and places they choose to spend time. Depending on the types of friends she has, The Friend can also be pushed into salacious situations as well. The main difference between these types and The Cheater is that The Cheater seeks adventure and new experiences regardless of the form that they take. It is this drive to always find the next emotional high that will often cause them to turn to the cock carousel. They don’t cheat because they feel an emotional attachment to the new person, but rather because they don’t feel the excitement they crave in their relationship.
While many girls would break off a relationship that was no longer exciting or satisfying, The Cheater tends to crave the emotional support and stability of a relationship even if it leaves her wanting supplementary shagging. She may not even engage in sexual cheating, but simply spend much of her time intentionally away from her partner. The Cheater will focus the majority of her attention and energy on finding new and exciting experiences and people. This may come in the form of meeting other people for sexual escapades, but most likely she won’t be that premeditated about it. Instead, she will wind up making a group of ‘friends’ or joining a group that plans parties, adventures, or other events and things will progress naturally from there. An example of this may be a language exchange group that meets in the evenings and regularly stays afterward for drinking and finding new pubs to visit. If she’s an outdoorsy type, perhaps she’ll join a group that regularly goes camping, hiking, or other types of overnight excursions. These situations are not overtly sexual and she will feel completely justified in wanting to go, but if her partner is not with her then you can be almost certain that she will not have her guard up when Chad comes knocking on her tent flaps.
The Cheater is an obsessive personality type and will likely flit from one fad or activity to another, rotating in her newest infatuation when the last one begins to bore her or becomes too much work. If you’ve ever known a girl who seems to take up a new hobby, diet, or lifestyle every month and always with the same self sureness and vigor, then she fits at least partially into this personality type. Many Cheaters have this personality type and remain sexually faithful to their partners their whole lives, but many more do not – caveat emptor.
Keys to sealing the deal
Because The Cheater is always looking for something new and exciting, coming to her with a boring or predictable style of pickup will fail miserably. Instead, you need to make sure that things feel fresh at least for her, and preferably for you both. If an activity or place feels familiar and routine to you, it will come across in your demeanor and it will reduce her excitement as well. Doing something slightly outside of your normal routine or comfort zone will help to increase enjoyment and pleasure for both of you throughout the night. Anything new, different, or unusual will be a good choice.
The exception to this rule would be if you take her for some kind of cultural experience for your home country. For example, an Irish dance festival would be a new and interesting experience for her with the added benefit that nearly everything Ireland-related serves alcohol. Perhaps a French wine tasting event would be up your alley if you are European. Even an archery café or fishing café, both of which are easy enough to find in various parts of Seoul, would be great options that she may not have ever tried. Don’t overthink the venue, it simply needs to be more exciting than ‘dinner and a movie’ type dates.
Once you are out with her, make sure to keep things feeling exciting and even a little dangerous. Whatever activity you choose, you want it to involve an element of either cooperation or competition. The Cheater is usually a rather outgoing and competitive girl, so if you have competition in the event you can lean into it without being too much of a bully. This would work in the example of the archery café or a shooting range. If, on the other hand, you have the option of cooperation like in an escape room or laser tag, make sure that you tell her you expect her to pull her weight. The Cheater likely considers herself a rather independent and capable woman, so she won’t be averse to being told to step up and play with the big boys.
The main goal in any of these examples and situations is to pique her interest at first, get her excited about the activity, and then maintain a constant stream of adrenaline and dopamine throughout the activity. These will make her feel very excited and create a facsimile of sexual arousal. Her mind can’t tell whether you are creating those feelings, or the activities are. Once you have her physically, mentally, and emotionally ramped up, all that is left is to escalate further in a private (or better, public and secluded) place.
Where to find her
The Cheater will be easiest to find in any sort of thrill-seeking group, as many of them tend to gravitate toward those groups. Check Facebook / Meetup groups for ‘Extreme’, ‘Adventure’, or any other keywords that denote slightly risky and exciting activities. They may also take the form of travel groups that take trips to different cities and places around Korea. These function much the same way, as people who want to travel to the south coast for a cherry blossom festival are looking for the experience of doing something new, not just seeing a flower that is abundant all over Korea.
You will also find The Cheater in almost every social group or situation, and she will likely be the most outgoing and active person in the group. The girl who always seems most excited about doing the next activity or coming up with ideas for future excursions may fit in this type. If you’re at a bar, this is the girl who is most willing to get up for the dance competition or who wants to try a new shot from the bartender. The Cheater doesn’t do anything by halves, and if she’s drinking, know that she will probably get drunk as a skunk.
Obligatory Disclaimer: Do NOT sleep with girls who are too drunk. She absolutely must be compos mentis for any sexual activities.
The Cheater can be found and identified almost anywhere that many people congregate. Whatever the place or activity, The Cheater will always be the most excited to shake things up, try something new, and put themselves on the path toward excitement and a feeling of newness. Girls who seek change for the sake of change, and want it often, fall in this category. This applies in study groups, at school, at work, at church, or anywhere else where you can see someone’s behavior long enough to identify.
Pros and cons
Pros: Depending on what you are looking for in a woman, The Cheater may have more to offer you than you would first imagine. If you are a rather adventurous person yourself and enjoy constantly trying new things and experiencing anything you can, then you may very well enjoy a fun a fruitful fling with The Cheater.
The Cheater can make for a very enjoyable friend with benefits and even a girlfriend, as long as you can keep up with her appetite for excitement and change. She will happily take trips with you as often as possible and sample a bevy of new hobbies and activities.
If you are new to Korea, The Cheater can make a wonderful first girlfriend too. She can show you around the country and take you to places that you would never see or experience on a regular tour. She is already probably very well acquainted with all of the nooks and crannies around town, if not around the whole country, where one can try some of the less common things on offer in Korea – things like dog meat soup, cobra wine, or homebrewed makgeolli.
You should be aware though that you will need to keep up and contribute new ideas for your adventures as well. She will not be happy to be the leader for too long, so make sure to do your research and even show or tell her about a few things that she didn’t know before. You will also need to keep things physically exciting while doing things together.
Sexually, The Cheater will be much more willing to try non-traditional activities than most other types of girls. Most Korean men are very vanilla in the bedroom, based on what I’ve heard, so she may or may not have any experience with other sexual niches and fetishes. She will probably be much more open to introducing new things to the bedroom and may even be very unsatisfied if this boundary is not pushed at least a little bit. Keep the communication open about sexual desires and fantasies – this may be your best chance to experience things you thought impossible before.
A final positive to The Cheater comes if you too struggle with the difficulties of monogamy. If you are the type of guy who regularly has multiple different girls on the roster at once, The Cheater will make a good addition to your lineup. She will come around often enough that you can spend time with her and have a lot of fun, but will also be out a lot, leaving you the freedom to pursue other interests. However, be extremely careful with the terminology you use with this girl. She likely has quite a temper, so avoiding using words like ‘love’ or ‘boyfriend’ if you intend to creep.
Cons: The first, and probably biggest, negative to The Cheater is built right into her name. This girl is very likely to cheat on you at some point if you enter a long-term relationship with her. It is in her nature to always seek out a new and exciting form of pleasure, including in the realm of the sexual. Know that if your game is not on point, and often even when it is, this girl will be scooped up for a recreational romp or two. The closest you can get to preventing this is to be present when she goes out, but that’s simply not possible every time without generating very strong beta vibes that will backfire even worse. You will have to keep her excited and interested indefinitely for the duration of your relationship so that you remain her sole focus and obsession. She will not cheat on her obsession… until it gets boring and predictable.
The next major negative of dating The Cheater ties directly into this consideration.
She is very high maintenance and requires constant attention, creativity, and energy to stay satisfied and interested. This type of girl is probably not ideal for older guys who don’t have the energy to go out multiple times a week. The minute that you start to slow down and show a lower energy or excitement level than her, her mind will start wandering and she will begin mentally filling your spot.
The final downside to dating The Cheater is that this type of girl usually has a penchant and love for the dramatic. With all her energy and passion, the highs are incredibly high, as are the lows. When she feels upset, slighted, annoyed, or even just bored, she will make her dissatisfaction known, and she will do it loudly. This is not the type of girl who will have a calm discussion about what is upsetting her in order to solve the problem. It is the lack of excitement that is the problem, so an argument or fight will help her to fill the void.
Unfortunately, to the best of my knowledge, there is no way to avoid this aspect of relationships with The Cheater. It is the way that she knows to deal with problems and issues in a relationship, and she will not be swayed to do things in a calmer, more rational way. The emotional range of this type is very wide on the ends and looks more like a square wave than a sine wave. You must be prepared for the eventual blowups that will occur should you enter a relationship with her and know how to properly hold your frame. The best way to guarantee she cheats on you is to break down like a beta during these outbursts. If she smells any blood in the water, she will devour you like Jaws.