If you’ve been going out and approaching like I often tell you to (or coach you to) then you’re going to end up taking a LOT of numbers. You’ll start to recognize that some numbers are higher quality than others, meaning that she’s very interested or you’ve already set a date together. A lot of times though, you might take a lower quality number from a girl who you aren’t terribly interested in at the moment or who is showing some hesitation. Other times you might be chatting with a girl and she flakes or it just fizzles out. Don’t delete that number just yet!
If you go out number farming a lot, you’ll end up with hundreds or thousands or girls’ numbers in your phone. This is obviously an unmanageable and unwieldy list of numbers that can’t possibly be sorted through. On top of that there’s no way that you’ll remember who they all are or how you met or any of those details.
But when you’re on a cold streak or just don’t have any particular plans set, this can be a big benefit.
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It’s really very simple. Go out with a buddy for drinks and choose a random name or few letters, ping every girl in your phone that comes up, and try to get them out with you for a drink. Those who respond will be down and you’ll actually have your pick of the litter. That’s it! Don’t believe me? Watch this…
As an example, if I go to my phone and type in ‘Ji’, then it will pop up with all the Ji-Young, Ji-Eun, Min-Ji, etc.
As you can see, there are TONS of K-girls with these names. I would create a message like, “Hey cool girl, long time no see! I’m about to head out with a friend to X Bar for a drink, come join us! It’ll be the time of your life, we have a great party planned!”
Then simply rinse and repeat. Send it out to all the girls on that list, or maybe just the first 30 or so if your list is too long.
The beauty in this strategy is two-fold.
- If she answers, then you KNOW she’s down to party. Your message already filters out anyone who thinks this might be a dinner date or some other beta bullshit.
- You have literally NOTHING to lose! It was already a dead lead, and now maybe you can rekindle it and get something out of it.
Of course, you shouldn’t send this message to your regulars, or really any ‘live’ leads. This should be a strategy reserved exclusively for girls with whom you haven’t spoken in at least 1 month.
But… But… Papa Jack!!
Worried that she may not remember you? WHO CARES!
Worried that she might not answer? WHO CARES!
Worried that she may realize it’s a copy paste message? WHO CARES!
Worried that she might think it’s ‘weird’ to get a message from you after so long? … I think you get the point.
Now, there is one potential downside to this strategy.
You may get too many girls who want to come join! Good problem to have, really.
If you find yourself in that situation, it just means that you get to pick your favorite among them once they all get there. Don’t be afraid to toss one or two to your buddy as well.
You can also blow some of them off for the night if you think they’re not very promising or you want to save them for another night. There’s nothing wrong with telling a girl, “hey something came up and we had to leave early, let’s hang out next time instead.”
I’m sure that some of you guys out there are thinking, “Wait Papa Jack, what if the girls talk and realize they’ve both banged me before?”
My friend, that is a golden zone.
Like I said before, as long as these are girls you haven’t spoken to in at least a month, then there’s no conflict of interests here. In fact, it works to your advantage if they find out because it increases your social proof far more than anything you ever say could. Of course, you can’t be the one to tell them this fact (a mistake I’ve actually made before), but if they find out on their own then it will push their competitive sides into overdrive and they will begin vying for your carnal consideration.
It’s also worth noting here that holding your frame will be of utmost importance here. Your message didn’t ask them for a date, it didn’t promise them exclusivity, it didn’t imply an impending marriage proposal – it simply said there would be a party and they were invited. If they try to confront you about it like it’s a bad thing, laugh it off. Feel free to amplify even, ask if they want to know who was better (and don’t ever actually answer). Tell them to have a contest of who can buy you the best drink, and the winner gets to sit next to you. Just have a good time with it without being too crass, and it will be all good.
So next time you feel like deleting a number of a girl who isn’t responding as well as you’d like or who didn’t seem too interested in you… Just hold onto it. You never know when that next cold streak will come and this list may save you from the depressing depths of a dearth of debauchery.
Til next time players!
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