Tinder is the biggest possible waste of your time and energy if you’re looking to meet Korean girls.
It’s a microcosm of shitty American culture coming to Korea and being made even worse. Every interaction begins with you providing the girl with instant validation of her looks, which in and of itself is not a good beginning. Then 99% of the time, you have to send messages first and show direct interest, further weakening your hand. If she even bothers responding to your dancing bear intro or terrible pun, you’re in a situation where you almost have to play into her hand just to get her to meet face to face. It’s a lazy and weak way of trying to meet girls in general, and it especially doesn’t work in Korea.
Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with hookup apps, although they’re not really my style. I can see the appeal of them when they’re used right, simply see someone and decide whether or not you want to hook up with them. That’s all fine and dandy.
The problem is that in Korea, all the girls on Tinder are either just advertising their Instagram pictures, generally attention-whoring, or just “looking to chat / make friends.” Anywhere else, typical hamster phrases like that could be easily ignored. In Korea though, the girls seem very surprised when you suggest that you take the interaction analog and meet in person.
Then if you do meet them in person, they are incredibly awkward. I’ve been on 5 different Tinder dates in Korea and every one of them was absolutely horrid. These girls were the absolute dregs of this country, and of course looked much different in person than their pictures online. I even had one girl who, while we’re having chicken and beer, laughingly told me that the only reason she meets up with guys from Tinder is to get some free food and drinks out of the deal. I laughed along, then 5 minutes later I got up to go to the bathroom and never came back. I wonder why I never heard from her again…
In the interest of fairness however, I have heard success stories from other people who tried Tinder here. Some of my different friends have had one or two successful hookups from the app, and it’s definitely possible. But it’s also worth noting that the amount of time and energy it takes is not worth the output you get back from it, even if you get laid sometimes. I would much rather spend an hour at a bar or language exchange and meet several new women in person as opposed to spending an hour flipping through fake pictures in hopes that one might actually respond to your message.
I know that I might sound sort of jilted, having tried my hand at Tinder and not been successful, but I really don’t believe that to be the case. I think a more accurate assessment of the situation is that Tinder draws the absolute worst girls that Korea has to offer. It draws in the girls who can’t get guys in real social situations. It draws in the girls who rely on doctored and photoshopped pictures to make them look decent. It draws in the girls that are so useless, even their friends didn’t want to set them up with someone they know.
Plain and simple, my advice is this. Don’t Tinder Korea.
If you absolutely must Tinder in Korea, check out these tips on how to do it better and improve your success rate.